Monday, 16 October 2017

Pregnant Pause

OK, so that was definitely longer than I planned to go since my last post.  There's suspense, then there's just being a jerk about it.

I don't blame you.

I know there are still a few of you out there, so for those that have been wondering, yes in fact we got lucky again the second time around.  I'm currently 30 (30!) weeks pregnant with baby #2.  To answer some of the most frequently asked questions:
  • How are you feeling? - Pretty good, although overall I've definitely been finding this pregnancy a bit rougher than my first.  I think I can mostly chalk that up to the fact that on top of dealing with the usual pregnancy fatigue / aches and pains, this time I can't just lie down when I feel like it and instead have to chase a very active 2.5 year old around.  Hence the reason why I've started to write this blog post about a million times and never finished it.  Sleep is just so much more enticing.
  • When are you due? - Official due date is December 21, but apparently because I'm really really old (and an IVF patient with a previous C-section under my belt) they won't let me go past 39 weeks this time.  If I don't go into labour on my own, I'm scheduled for a C-section on December 13th.  I'm OK with this, and if I'm being completely honest I think I'd prefer it that way.  I got enough of a taste of (induced) labour last time to feel like I'm not really missing out on anything, and I've already got the C-section scar going for me so I kind of feel like we should keep the rest of the downtown core in its original condition if at all possible.
  • Finding out the sex? - Done and done.  It's another boy!  I was a bit surprised to actually find myself hoping for a second boy, but watching how physical Q is with his male playmates I really started to think that he needed a little brother.  It's totally stereotypical and maybe this second kiddo won't be anything like him, but it also makes life generally easier in terms of passing on clothes, toys, etc.  So yeah, no little girl in our future, but I have my niece for that and I'm OK with it.
  • Does Q understand what's going on? - Yes and no.  He understands there's a baby in mommy's belly (he even outed me to his daycare before I told them) and knows it's going to be a baby brother.  Whether he appreciates that in a few short months there'll be another baby in the house that he can't get rid of is another story.  He is super cute and affectionate with his 9-month old baby cousin, however, so I'm really hoping that continues for the new baby.
  • Going to try for any more?  FUCK NO.  What are you, nuts?  Why do people EVER have more than two children?  At that point you're outmanned and outgunned.  Half the time the two of us can barely handle Q, and I start to wonder if we were insane to even consider another one, but that's kind of shutting the barn door after the horses are long gone.
And there you have it.  My long overdue update!  Thanks to everyone who's reached out and wondered what's been going on with me.  I can't promise I'm going to start blogging with any more regularity (as a matter of fact, I can pretty much assure you I won't) but I will definitely update once little man #2 makes his appearance. 

14 comments:

  1. So happy to see this post! Glad to hear things are going well (congrats on 30 weeks!) and that Q is excited about a new sibling. All very good.

    Now the bad news: you’re officially outmanned and outgunned (says the woman with 4 year d twins who have taken over her bed and forced her to sleep on the couch)

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  2. Tee hee! Congratulations! I’m excited for the craziness of two: at least when I have the energy to be excited.

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  3. So excited for you -- and happy for you! All the best for a safe and easy last few weeks of preganancy!

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  4. Hi there! fellow donor egg mother of a 4.5 year old bouncing ball. When she wears a princess dress I am tempted to believe in girl stereotypes. When she keeps bouncing on her trampoline for an hour I am not so sure. Hey, better than bouncing of the wall. I might have to try tractor videos soon, who knows. Anyway stupid question since you talked of thawing embryos, but, same donor? so full sibling? Do you find it has any impact in your/Q's life? (other than resemblance talk)
    I find that it is always at the back of my mind, and at the same time it doesn't matter at all. Not yet. Even though I try to tell her the donor story once a month or so.
    Anyway, congrats on this beautiful adventure!

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    1. Yep, full sibling from the batch of 4 embryos we had frozen the first time around. As for the donor thing, I find myself thinking about it less and less. The fact that Q looks so much like M helps a lot so there aren't really comparisons to make. But that means I almost have to remind myself from time to time that it's something I'm going to have to discuss with him when he's older. We have a few books but they're just not as interesting to him as the ones with cars and trucks, so they don't get read a lot right now.

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  5. Yay! 30 weeks is so exciting! I love everything about this. I love that you are having another boy too. I hope for best friends and playmates for both of us.

    A scheduled csection is sort of crazy in how calm it all is. Which was sort of a nice relief after J's birth - hopefully it's the same for you after Q's eventful birth. Good luck! Can't wait to hear how it goes!

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  6. Congrats! I was wondering how it turned out! Well, it turned out great! I have 2 boys almost 3 years apart, and it has been the best. Our older son watched "his baby" and little brother followed him everywhere, soaking it all in. it was wonderful for both boys, and the best gift we could have given our first son. I can't wait to see a birth announcement!

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  7. It's so nice to read your update! While I would love it if you did jump back into the blogging world, I completely understand why it's so challenging to make time! I can't wait for this little guy's birth announcement!

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  8. always so happy to see an update from you. I know I could count on you for your snarky FUCK NO respose!

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  9. Congrats lady! I miss you writing on your blog!

    I hear you on not going for #3. I have the same response. It's hard enough to have two kids and work on a man-to-man basis. No zone defense for me!

    Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and we are here if you want to keep us updated!

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  10. Yay!!!! Congrats! Can't wait to hear about his birth. I miss your updates.

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  11. Yay for an update! That's all I will say. ;)

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  12. Congrats!! That sounds wonderful!

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  13. Congratulations on your second successful pregnancy!! you prove donor eggs is they way to go in cases (also like mine) with crappy, good-for-nothing eggs. I also come from 3 years ttc in every possible way, and this is my first IVF from a donor egg. I read all your posts only to see if there is/was a tiny, little something that made you think about Q being from another women's egg but it seems to me, is all irrelevant after you hold your baby on your arms and the whole infertility shit is over. Only if we have thought about DE before destroying our self-esteem and minds. Congrats again!

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